Martes, Hunyo 11, 2013

Birut; My Heartbeat


Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, 
that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. 
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. 
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor.
Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, 
just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. 
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing;
 they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance.
 His bright eyes are intent.
 His eager body quivers. 
Suddenly he begins to run from the group,
 flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, 
and when you and your special friend finally meet,
 you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. 
The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, 
and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, 
so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together.

Lunes, Agosto 13, 2012

On Jealousy

Have you ever been out somewhere, or even at a friend's place, and your partner made a nice comment about someone else? Like, "Oh she's so nice," or "He's so very thoughtful." Even though someone saying nice things should be always great to hear, does this ever cause a little uneasy or even painful feeling inside you? Do you feel the need to say, "Well I do that for you all the time." or something similar?

You may then be accused of "being jealous," but it's not jealousy at all.

What you're actually feeling, is not appreciated. Maybe inside you justified your partner not saying "thank you" to you enough because maybe they just don't notice those things, or maybe they just don't say thank you all that much. You accepted their unappreciative seeming behavior because you accepted that's just how they are.

But once they compliment someone else, that all changes.

Now it becomes, "Why are they noticing this tiny little thing from someone else, but they don't seem to notice the mountain of similar nice things that I do for them all the time?"

First, it's good of you to speak up. Just make sure you don't let that little monster known as anger make its way into your words. Anger out tends to have anger directed back, and that's most likely when you'd be dismissed as "being jealous" or some other nonsense.

If they think you're just jealous, just know that for whatever reason, they, right now, don't get it.

You can make them more aware in a more tactful way. Chances are, they really do appreciate you, but they have come to expect that you always do nice things and "don't need" any thank yous or compliments.

Well, nobody "needs" thank yous or compliments, but they are free to give and hardly take but a few seconds, so why not give them daily?

Sometimes people take their partners for granted. Especially when their partner always does incredibly nice, sweet, considerate things. They've set the bar so high and should be appreciated a lot, but unfortunately often times, the only time they hear about what they do, is when they stop doing it.

To have better relationships, we have to get out of the "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" mentality. If you have a car, or a roof, or a tv set, you really don't think about fixing it until it's broken...then you fix it right away. You could tell a tv set you love it all day long, it's still going to break whenever it's going to break.

But people aren't cars, or roofs, or tv sets. People are people. We have emotions. We thrive on appreciation, love, and expressing those things on a daily basis is like food for the soul.

One of the biggest reasons people say they are unhappy in their relationship is because they don't feel appreciated. This usually comes as a shock to the other person, because they really do appreciate them, they just haven't bothered mentioning it in a few years.

So...bother! Notice all the nice, kind, sweet things your partner does for you, for your home, for your family. Thank them, compliment them, and mean it! You will likely see a return on your newfound appreciation almost immediately. This may seem like nothing, and it may seem so insignificant just because it's so easy and almost effortless to do. But it makes such a huge difference to the quality of relationships. In addition, it helps to boost a person's self-esteem. Knowing daily that they make a difference and improve the lives of those who they love is such a gift.

If this is done consistently, then it will strengthen every relationship.

Then, if your partner were to say, "That person's so nice" you could 100% agree, without any ill feelings inside, because you've already heard how nice you are 3 times today and 100 times this week. You'll just know that your partner is a grateful person who always notices good things and nice people. 

Huwebes, Agosto 9, 2012

Love, Trust and Kindness ( Inspirational)

We are connected to Trust, Kindness and Love
-Doe Zantamata

In a relationship, any relationship, whether it be romantic, friends, or work, these three qualities need to be present for a complete connection. If one is missing or becomes broken, it must be tended to, or the relationship will not be fulfilling.

When there is love, thoughts, actions, and words between people are for the good of all. Love is tied to appreciation, which is something that we need to feel every day from those closest to us. When relationships break down, or when people don't like their jobs, the underlying reason is usually lack of appreciation. When a job is difficult or doesn't pay well, many times, people stay if they feel they are greatly appreciated. In longer-term relationships, appreciation is sometimes taken for granted amidst life's daily business. If a person strays, it's many times because someone new gave them a lot of appreciation, admiration, and attention. This is why it's so very crucial to show love and appreciation daily. It's just not something that can be put off for very long and then made up for in any grand gesture.

Trust is also tied to love. To love someone fully, trust is a must. This is why when trust is broken, it's so incredibly painful. The love cannot be completely fulfilled without it, but the love does not just disappear when the trust is broken. Trust prevents arguments. It prevents reading into things in a negative way. When there is lack of trust, innocent, everyday occurances can become hurtful arguments that were totally made up in the mind of the person who did not trust. The other person gets hurt and offended, and the person who did not trust is confused because the true story is so totally different than the one that they assumed to be true. Relationships just cannot survive without trust.

Staying in a relationship with an untrustworthy person takes a great toll on a person. It causes them to constantly be on their guard, and question things not only in that relationship, but in others as well. A relationship with an untrustworthy person brings out fear, panic, and even mild paranoia, due to the desire to both stay with this person, but protect the self from further pain. It's up to each person to decide for themselves if a break in trust was just a rough spot that can be worked out, or if it cannot be repaired, the relationship should end.

Kindness may seem like a part of love, but that isn't always the case. Kindness is closely tied to consideration. It's the most touching connection that can be felt. It can happen between the closest of friends, strangers, and even animals can sense it. It's the act of thinking outside of one's self and giving in words, actions, or things, something to someone else without any expectation of the gift being returned. A kind word, a favor, or a treasured, thoughtful gift are those things that really touch us and often bring tears of gratitude.

Becoming conscious, or aware of relationships and if they hold these qualities can greatly improve life. To receive them, we must also give them. If we give these things and they are questioned, taken for granted, or never returned, then we have to decide if this is the right place for us to be or not.  If we give them all and they are returned to us, we have achieved complete connection. This is a bond that is rare, but possible. Once it's achieved, it makes our world, our lives, our every day, so much better and brighter.